‘Parent and College Students we need a change.’ This is the
headline I read every week or so, as another article gets printed by major
publications talking about the immense problem on college campuses with
mental health across the country.
I have been a family therapist for over 20 years working
with students in HS and College. I am
also a father of two kids 17 and 19 years old. After being around this
population of kids professionally and personally I have concluded one very
important thing—we need to change the way we offer help to them.
The population of young adults will soon be running our
communities. They will be teachers,
police officers, store owners, doctors, nurses and many other
professionals. Many of them will have
long histories of mental health issues that are out of control if we don’t make
a change soon.
The bottom line is we have a large population on most college
campuses of students struggling with anxiety, depression and suicidality.
The stats are shocking:
65% of students with overwhelming anxiety
38% of students with depression
Only 7% of parents report that their student is having
mental health problems
Suicide is now the 2nd leading cause of death in
A shocking 2/3 of all college
students needing help do not get it.
Why are there so many
students needing help?
College life can be tremendously stressful in that many
students don’t have healthy ways to burn off stress. They are stressed due to school work and
interpersonal conflicts and don’t know how to manage things.
In addition, there is a sparse amount of options for
students due to the increased demand and minimal staff that most campuses have. Campus staff are often overwhelmed and
students feel isolated.
The current average ratio nationally of mental health
provider to student is 1 to 1700. For
some campuses it is as bad a 1 provider to 2500 students.
This easily translates to many students simply will go
without help. That means many students
will remain extremely sad or depressed, overwhelmingly anxious and some may
attempt to harm themselves. Let me
remind you all these are our future leaders, our neighbors, and our own kids.
Some estimate as few as only 11% of students who are
deemed too need help are actually getting help while at college. This trend is disturbing. We need to consider a change. Changing how to reach students. This is the basis of why I developed U ARE
HEARD. We are an online coaching solution
that helps college students manage their mental health. I have an amazing staff of coaches with
varied backgrounds ready to assist.
The online option has been very appealing to students. It allows us to end the stigma and negative
feeling some students have of going to an office to see someone. Our students can see us from the privacy of
their room, study room in their dorm or even a private room in the
library. We bring the support to them
through video sessions. Video calling is
actually done more by college students than phone calling. Most students are very comfortable having
conversations in this format.
The online format has also allowed me to hire coaches
throughout the country. This has
increased my ability to have an all-star staff helping students. I have individuals contacted me daily to work
for U ARE HEARD.
If we as parents or students don’t look to get help
differently than the way we always have, then the stats listed above will
continue and eventually get worse. Why do we as adults accept the same way of
doing things if it is not working.
U ARE HEARD is engaging and an easy to use solution. Many students look forward to meeting and
getting the help. As an in office provider of therapy for teens, this is not
always the case with many young adults.
We at U ARE HEARD, have helped many as we bring support
directly to the student. We assist
through online sessions. We work within your
students schedule and allow for them to get help when they otherwise may
not. Helping students is our
passion. We want students to know there
is support available and it doesn’t have to be hard to set up.
We need to change the way we help.
We need to allow students to have their difficulties and BE
We need to offer help that works with them and fits into their
We need to offer help that is engaging and appealing so they
accept it and want to use it.
The question is do you want to BE HEARD. Visit our website at www.uareheard.com.
We are currently offering free intake sessions to decide if U ARE HEARD is a good fit for your student visit us at
Marc Lehman, Founder of U ARE HEARD / Family Therapist
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